You are who you meet.

Hello from California, everyone!

OHMYGOSH it's so beautiful here.


I have been eating the best food,

and enjoying the loveliest weather,

and hiking around LA (who knew?!), 

and living my best life.

Not least because I've been here to gather with

the best,
most inspiring,
most badass,
most excellent and brilliant and generous


I am telling you these are WORLD-CHANGING WOMEN.

So I'm here to hope

that this is true:

We are who we meet.

You've probably heard the saying:

You are the average of the five people with whom you spend the most time.

Turns out there are studies that show that this is true,

and even that the friends of our friends 

affect how we show up in the world.

It's been so obvious to me this week: 

being with insightful, bold women

bolsters my own thoughtfulness

and courage.

Staying with my good friend

who lives so well,

who sweetly balances rest and play, discipline and pleasure

encourages ME to live well, too.


With whom do you surround yourself?

What do these people talk and care about?

What do they believe about life?

How do they move through the world?

What sorts of things do y'all do together?

Are you so grateful to incorporate

the values

and conversations

and examples

they offer

into who you are becoming?

I hope so!

But if not, here's some truth

that came across my Facebook feed

(because even online

I surround myself

with badass women):


After all,

you're contributing

to other people's averages


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